Kink is exciting. It has definitely opened up new realms of possibility for us. Having said that, it really highlights the importance of consent, communication, and most of all TRUST with the partners you are engaging with. This is amplified when you are disabled (and otherwise marginalized). We are joined again by Roxanne Chanel Murray to unpack these ideas.
In an upcoming episode with Mistress Magenta and Sara Youngblood Gregory (10/17/2020, Ep. 105, Realm 8), we discuss “breath play” and kink (among other things).
This conversation brought up painful memories of the death of Daana’s friend Kelly Dwyer in October 2013. It is believed that Kelly was killed while engaging in breath play and kinky sex with a manipulative, deceitful, and dangerous (unbeknownst to her) partner — a sociopathic predator — a person who later dumped her body in the woods after her death.
You can read her story here: https://www.cbsnews.com/news/kelly-dwyer-death-solving-the-mystery-behind-wisconsin-womans-disappearance/
Reflecting on Kelly’s death really puts the concepts of trust and safety into perspective.
This episode is in memory of Kelly Dwyer.
Today’s guest: Roxanne is an English MS warrior and Fashion Stylist who advocates for the visibility of people of color in the UK to be included and considered more in the MS narrative.
Check out her podcast “Spilling Tea With Roxy” wherever you listen to podcasts. Connect with Roxanne on Instagram @multiplesclerosisfashionista. You can also find her on YouTube.
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